I have been following the story of a prominent media personality called Louis Armstrong Otieno.A man who commanded the airwaves when it came to news making headlines and news makers to say the least,back in the day.He was so good at what he did,almost perfect until he met a certain lady friend and from then his life took a turn for the worse.He was subjected to humiliating experiences and his brand was completely tarnished.It will take a while to recover that.Lately,he was interviewed and to be honest I watched that video in tears.One thing struck me the most…he said, “Nobody visits,calls or checks on you.”

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So…where are his friends?…Were they not there for him when everything was hunky dory?…Vanished to where?…

Hard times will always reveal true friends.

What is friendship?…Who are your friends?…Who is my friend?…

Friends can either build you up or break you down,they can spice up your life or poison it.They can completely change the course of your life on both extremes;the best or the worst.I believe that friendship is not just an experience but a force that can push you forward or pull you backwards.

When things in your life are ‘cruising the free-way’ be prepared to be flocked by friends but during the ‘valley’ moments,then the sifting and sieving process begins and your true friends are exposed.

The ‘valley’ moment requires friends to be that shoulder…that pillow to lean on and feel safe and secure.Infact,Hubert Humphrey puts it so well when he says, “The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.”

It is quite interesting how life can easily expose a “wolf in sheeps clothing”…the days of a ‘pretender friend’ are forty just like that of a thief.

I feel so bad whenever I see someone isolated as a result of circumstances.How can a human being with blood flowing through his or her veins do that?…How?!!…(outright sad)

I personally believe that a true friend is one who will be there for you and stand by you when everything is working out just fine…celebrate with you as well as be there for you in the ‘valley’ moments.I have learnt to differentiate a true friend from a ‘pretender friend’ using this test and so far so good.

Also remember to be the friend you want your friend to be.It’s a two way traffic.No short cut.You vanish when they are in trouble,don’t expect them to be there when you are in trouble.

I like what Simon Sinek says(one of my favourite leadership coaches),

“The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation;friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares.Instead friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something no matter what or when”

Proverbs 18:24 reads, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Unreliable friends ruin ones’ life…Samson for instance was brought down by the wrong friend(Delilah),Job was surrounded by wrong friends,if he had not held fast onto his relationship with God,we would have completely lost him,I had a friend in campus who derailed me(story for another day).Be very careful who you surround yourself with,because those who have unreliable friends are soon brought to ruin.

As hard/as tasking as it is to know who true friends really are,guess what?There is one sure friend who sticks closer than a brother.Imagine how close that is!They say that blood is thicker than water now this friend erases this and his friendship is thicker than blood itself.Who in the whole wide world would boldly say it to your face that, “Hey bestie,I will never leave you nor forsake you?”…but this friend who sticks closer than a brother confidently says that he will never leave nor forsake his friends.(See Deut 31:6,Deut 31:8,Joshua 1:5,Psalms 37:28,Hebrews 13:5).He is the same God.He has not changed a bit and what He says He means.His promises are yes and Amen.Hebrews 13: 5 says, “There is none like Him and He will not allow His word to return to Him void.”

Jesus Christ is the real ‘Ride or die’ friend.When everyone else vanishes into thin air.He is still there standing by your side.He is knocking at your door waiting for you to recognise His relentless presence in your life.Are you willing to open that door for Him?Maybe you opened the door but along the way you locked Him out of your life again.He is giving you another chance.He is at your door,ready to be your friend.Please pray this simple prayer with me?

Dear Lord I come to you today broken,wounded,hurting,lost and lonely.Assure me of your undying presence always.Be my friend from today and henceforth and help me to always remember that you are here to stay because you promised that you will never leave me nor forsake me.I open the door for you today.Come into my life.Thank you for hearing my prayer.I pray this trusting and believing.Amen.

I found this video quite relevant to this write-up, “Christs’ love is so fierce like a hurricane crushing over us.”

May this song minister to you.

He loves you forever with a “hurricane kinda love”.The ‘no matter what kinda friend.’

Have an amazing week ahead.

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