Separately Together

When one falls and has no one to lift him up, when one is in a state of despair and has no one to encourage him or her, when everything seems dark and there is no one to put a brightening smile on his or her face… Picture these scenarios. I personally get a feeling of suffocation by the mere thought of all this.

Friendship comes in and bridges those gaps. It adds a sparkle in a life that’s dull and pretty much lifeless. Friendship makes one laugh louder, smile brighter and live better. True love erupts from a friendship undettered.

Who are your friends? Do they make you laugh louder, smile brighter and live better or do they cause pain, sadness and discouragement? Are they there for you in every season?

I think about the ‘David-Jonathan’ kind of friendship and contrast it with the ‘Amnon-Jonadab’ type of friendship. The former is a friendship in and out of season, they even went out of their way to make a pact and take an oath on their friendship. When David was on the run because of Saul, Jonathan’s father, Jonathan went out of his way to ask, “Tell me, what can I do for you?” On the other hand Amnon wanted to take advantage of his sister Tamar and instead of Jonadab discouraging the act, he actually devised a very cunning way for Amnon to get what he wanted from Tamar and in the end they both suffered.

Philia/platonic love shared among friends is beautiful, but let’s not be blinded by the number of friends we have. The litmus test is this, is your friend ready to go the extra mile for you, be there to share in your pain and your joy, is he or she making your life any better, your smile brighter or increasing the volume of your laughter? Let’s be honest with ourselves and take stock. Are you sharing the David-Jonathan; selfless kind of friendship or the Amnon-Jonadab; selfish kind? It is very okay to drop the friends you feel are not adding value to your life. It is okay😊. It is also okay to be dropped!

Social media friendship is not equal to true friendship. Social media always has a life of its’ own. Do not be deceived. That is just social media but who is this person who sees you beyond the filters, make-up and the cute poses? Who is this friend who really ‘sees you?” I have not had many friends better part of my life. I am one person who values quality over quantity, because I have seen what true friendship really does. I am untethered or unperturbed by the number of likes or comments on my social media sites because that’s a different ball game! Away from all the facades, do I have friends, who add value to my life? Do you?

I guess this was a reality check for us as we continue on. Take stock of your friends and be open to being dropped as you drop those you feel derail your life because ‘bad company corrupts good morals’ Let’s go for that 1 friend who adds and forget about 10 or even a million who add no value to your life.

There were two friends who were walking across a desert. While they were walking they got into an ugly argument and out of anger one of them slapped the other on the face. The one who was slapped, though was hurt he did not say anything and quietly wrote over the sand “I am hurt because today my friend hit me n my face”. They resumed walking and kept walking until they came across an oasis. They decided to take bath in the oasis then. While they were taking a bath the one who was slapped started drowning. The other friend came to his rescue and saved him. After he got rescued, he wrote on the stone “Today I was saved by my best friend”.

The other friend asked him, “Why did you write on the sand when I slapped you while you wrote on the stone when I saved you?” Upon this, the other friend replied that its better we write on sand when your friend hurts you as it will be gone with the wind but write it on stone when your friend does something good to you so that it could be engraved forever. (Courtesy of

Wow! A true friend will always capitalise on the positive and engrave it on stone because he or she believes that tough times never last, they are always blown away by the wind😊

I end today’s write-up with a scripture from Roman’s 8:9-10 that says,

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.

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Love will always win

Travis Greene

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